Friday, March 9, 2007

Honour Bound

When you make a promise what is your attitude towards keeping the promise?

I have experienced / read about three attitudes.

  1. I will not keep the promise if it inconveniences me - with no sense of dishonour and glibly tell the promisee "sorry". I call this the "Life owes me a living" attitude
  2. I will try my level best (till wet with sweat) and feel dishonoured if I don't live up to my promise. However I have the option of going up to the promisee and if the promisee releases me I can give up honourably. I call this the "Warrior" attitude. (I am a Sun Tzu fan)
  3. I will try till my blood runs dry and feel dishonored to even discuss my inability with the promisee. I call this the "Suicidal" attitude.
"Life owes me a living" is quite common.
"Warrior" is currently my sense of honour. When younger I was at "Life owes me a living" and I have paid a heavy price for that.
Many people are not aware of the differences since it is a cultural context. Their current behaviour seems natural and correct.
Being at "Life owes me a living" is almost certain to negatively impact all your close personal relationships.
If you work in an organisation / operate a business and you don't operate at the "Warrior" level, your boss /colleague / customer is not going to trust you. And with no trust you go nowhere.
A "Suicidal" attitude obviously leads to a lot of suicides.
So what is your sense of honour